I have a confession to make.
A month ago, I had an epiphany about my calling. Sounds serious, doesn’t it! I have always been passionate about relationships and knew that I wanted to do something related to this topic. I believe that the quality of our relationships directly influences all other areas of our lives, and I also believe that the context of a relationship provides us with the most intimate opportunities for our personal and spiritual growth. I wish to see people in rich and fulfilling relationships which bring out the best in them. That night when the epiphany hit, it became clear that I want to help them improve their communication so as to build, strengthen and heal relationships.
I was delirious! I woke Mr Hurry (the hubby) up and proclaimed my world-saving plans to him. He thought he was dreaming. I announced to my friends around the world, “I have found my calling!” and they were all excited for me, nodding in approval at the necessity of that work. I started mapping out ideas and visualised myself to be the next John Gottman, Gary Chapman, or Bill and Pam Farrel. I decided that I should now channel all sources towards manifesting that and refocused my blog to that sole purpose. I wrote a message to all my blog readers where I gushed determinedly about this new focus. You might even have noticed the new title ‘You Can’t Hurry Love’ and wonder what Huimin is up to.
Now, a few weeks and blog posts later, I realised that I had made a mistake (uh-oh). The calling is still burning, but I missed writing about the other things that I loved to write about. I want to write about my experiences as a new mama; I want to write about how to make dreams happen; I want to write about forming and sustaining better habits; I want to write about productivity tips that will make you enjoy your work more; I want to write about how to have more energy for the things that are important to you; I want to write about inspiring people I meet and podcasts I listen to; I want to write about relationship mistakes and lessons; I want to write about the beautiful nuggets of life; I want to write about finding joy in our hearts and connecting to our true selves; I want to write authentic stories that resonate and not just impersonal personal development advice (what an irony!).
After berating myself for jumping too fast, something which I tend to do, I sat myself down and did a reflection exercise. I listed down my top values and ranked them in order. One of them was Significance – I am hungry to make a difference to this world and to others’ lives! In my impatience to get there, I was trying to brand myself as a guru in the field of relationship without first gaining credibility. It was a very humbling realisation.
Although Significance is on my list of top values, it ranked as number six and there are five others that come before. What if I wrote from a place of those five top values? I wondered.
Immediately, I felt a sense of peace and relief wash over me. Like a breath of fresh air.
“I don’t need to be that guru yet”, I thought. “I just need to be myself.”
I reflected on the focus of the blog and rewrote the About page. It is in fact very similar to what it was before, except in a slightly different tone of voice. I thought about giving the blog an uplifting title that reflects its essence and finally decided on Joy in a Hurry (pun intended!). As you might have guessed, Joy is one of those top five values.
Phew! There, I said it. It was not so bad after all. Surprisingly, I actually enjoyed it.
I am looking forward to sharing more and I will try to have something for you weekly. This week’s article will be out tomorrow and it will be a follow-up of what we talked about last week.
Have a wonderful day or evening, whenever you are reading this. 🙂
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