How to Identify Your Values and Use Them to Create More Success and Happiness

How to Identify Your Values and Use Them to Create More Success and Happiness

Have you ever been at a crossroad in your life and found it difficult to choose which direction to focus on?

Or have you had too many things on your plate and could not decide on what to prioritise?

How did you eventually decide, and what did you learn about yourself in the process?

I have those moments all the time. Some are smaller daily matters, some are turning points in life. Most of the time, I have not been mindful and end up spending more time hanging around the decision – either procrastinating, or jumping too fast into it and then having to re-decide because of doubts or regrets after the jump.

What if you are able to meet such moments with clarity and confidence? How much time and unnecessary worries would it save you? How much more energy would it bring you as you work towards your dreams and goals?

The door to your soul’s clarity and confidence can be accessed by a few keys, one of which is knowing your values. Knowing your values means being clear on these: what is important to you? What are you naturally motivated by? What drives your emotions, behaviour and decisions?

With clarity, comes focus. With focus, things get done faster. When things get done, the momentum inspires and springs you into a cycle of productivity and confidence.

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How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Ah… like an old friend, isn’t it? This part of us that loves comparing ourselves to others. This is something that we all do and one of the things that makes us so human. I wonder if this is an innate tendency that we are born with, or have we acquired it from the society as we grew? Interestingly, we more often ‘compare up’ rather than ‘compare down’. The main benefit for such a behaviour is that it serves as a benchmark for our growth and evolution. Otherwise, for the most part, it dampens our sense of worthiness.

This week’s article is a longer one as it touches on a few related topics that I’m sure many of you would identify with.

The two things that you likely compare most frequently are possessions (what they have) and achievements (what they do). I used to experience jealousy whenever I compare myself to others whom I regard as being better off. Thankfully, that jealousy has subsided and healthier feelings of envy or admiration have taken its place instead. I must admit that they are regular visitors in my mind more often than I would like to! Oh… look at that dream wedding that she just had; or that successful business that is generating a remarkable income; or that perfect body that looks good in any attire; or that beautiful house by the sea that they live in… oh how I wish… and the list goes on. Can you identify with these voices too?

The third thing that we compare, to a lesser degree, is attitude and personality (who they are).

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2 small words for getting unstuck

2 small words for getting unstuck

Finally, I am back to writing after a long absence! It was a long drawn procrastination where I was waiting for the perfect conditions to resume writing – registering a new domain, setting up the site on the web-hosting service Weebly, and then realizing that Wordpress is better after all and moving it all back. Oh, that icky perfectionist!

Have you also been in the same pit before? Where you had an idea or a project that you were excited about and you failed to progress on it because you did not know where to start, or because the stars and moon have yet to align for you. Therefore, you sit on it and you think about it and you run it in your head over and over again and then you feel bad that it is going nowhere.

Here’s unveiling the two humble words…

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