My 11 Habits for Daily Inspiration – Trilogy Part 1

My 11 Habits for Daily Inspiration – Trilogy Part 1

It is easy to be inspired when you’ve got a new job, are going on holiday, or have just walked out of an amazing seminar. Unfortunately, for most of us, these moments are the exception rather than the norm. What do you do to keep your spirits up on a regular day, as you commute to work in a packed train or queue up at the supermarket checkout to pay for your groceries? How do you not just manage your responsibilities, but to put the fire back in your days?

If you live in the Nordics, you would understand why they say this is the most depressing time of the year. Here in Helsinki, the sun rises at 9am and sets at 3pm, and it gets pitch black soon after. On most days, you don’t even see the sun at all and what greets you is a dull shade of grey or rain. The Finns talk about the weather a lot and it is really a personal responsibility to keep your spirits up. And yes, it is true that the weather does affect your mood.

Friends and relatives have asked me: “Isn’t it boring to stay home all day with a new baby? How are you coping without the help of your family?”

Thankfully, we are blessed to have supportive friends and neighbours here, and I actually do enjoy my time and life a lot. I credit it to having habits that create daily inspiration. Here, I share some of them, divided into parts because I realised halfway through the writing that it was turning into a thesis. Never knew I was this long-winded!

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How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Ah… like an old friend, isn’t it? This part of us that loves comparing ourselves to others. This is something that we all do and one of the things that makes us so human. I wonder if this is an innate tendency that we are born with, or have we acquired it from the society as we grew? Interestingly, we more often ‘compare up’ rather than ‘compare down’. The main benefit for such a behaviour is that it serves as a benchmark for our growth and evolution. Otherwise, for the most part, it dampens our sense of worthiness.

This week’s article is a longer one as it touches on a few related topics that I’m sure many of you would identify with.

The two things that you likely compare most frequently are possessions (what they have) and achievements (what they do). I used to experience jealousy whenever I compare myself to others whom I regard as being better off. Thankfully, that jealousy has subsided and healthier feelings of envy or admiration have taken its place instead. I must admit that they are regular visitors in my mind more often than I would like to! Oh… look at that dream wedding that she just had; or that successful business that is generating a remarkable income; or that perfect body that looks good in any attire; or that beautiful house by the sea that they live in… oh how I wish… and the list goes on. Can you identify with these voices too?

The third thing that we compare, to a lesser degree, is attitude and personality (who they are).

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Why the pursuit of happiness might sabotage your relationship instead

A few days ago I told my husband something which left him baffled. I had this little hypothesis in my head that being with me has brought more pain rather than joy into his life and I wanted to check the validity of that thought. This was after I had gone through an emotional phase which I now attribute to hormones and stress, and that thought had emerged during an evening of reflection.

What was the story that brewed in my mind? Before we got together, he was a single man and could freely steer his life, career and dreams in whatever direction he wishes. Now that it is a shared life, there are more things for him to consider, sacrifices to make, expectations to manage, and a woman to handle. He had signed up for a package which also includes a monthly dose of emotional spells that show up like clockwork. Being the patient, thoughtful and solution-oriented person he is, he would take it upon himself to resolve the crisis that his woman seems to be going through, which is ironically being further expressed because of the safe space that he provides.

If you have ever been in a relationship, you would likely have gone through a similar experience and realised that this ‘suffering’ is part of the deal.

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